What to expect during your first session
The mediation process:
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Identify conflict areas
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Identify needs of both parties
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Identify solutions and options
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Identify any missing information
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Test reality of solutions
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Find agreement on solutions OR understand the consequences of an impasse.
The mediator's role:
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Neutral and objective (does not side with either party)
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Guidance and redirection through the mediation process
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Balances power dynamics
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Ensures each party is empowered to exercise their power of choice
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Meet with parties individually, when necessary, to clarify positions
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Does not allow unethical agreements to be made
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Mediates only measurable and specific problems
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Drafts agreements (does not file)
Forms you will need: (please review prior to your first session)
How to Prepare for Mediation
Before mediation:
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Know what you want
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Know why you want it
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Know the legal strengths/weaknesses of your case (consult with an attorney if needed)
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During mediation:
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Voice your desires and concerns
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Listen for the needs of the other party when they speak
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Be considerate of both parties' needs
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Behave respectfully (tone of voice, no name-calling or threats)
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Be honest
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Focus on creating a new and functional future
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What to bring to your first appointment:
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Any relevant documents such as:
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Court orders
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Work schedules
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Paystubs
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Current custody arrangements
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Information about assets and investments
